Thrush and urinary tract infections are two of the most common reasons people pause their sex life, and both have a habit of coming back. A toy is rarely the whole story, but it is one of the few things in the chain you can control completely. A toy that is cleaned properly, made of a material that does not hold onto moisture, and used with a lubricant your body tolerates is a much smaller risk than one that lives in a washbag and gets a quick rinse under the tap.

What follows is practical housekeeping, not medical advice. If you have symptoms, a pharmacist can help and is usually the fastest route.

What a toy actually adds to the picture

Vaginal infections usually come from a shift in the balance of bacteria or yeast rather than a single cause. Sex is a common trigger because friction, lubricant and bodily fluids all disturb that balance for a day or two. A toy sits inside the same picture and can add three things: bacteria left on a surface, a material that traps moisture, and a cleaner or lubricant that irritates skin which is already sensitive.

All three are manageable. Our guide to how often to clean your toys covers the routine properly, and the short version is that a toy gets washed before and after every use, not only when it looks dirty.

Washing, and the step people skip

Warm water and a dedicated cleaner are enough for silicone, glass, metal and sealed hard plastic. The Loving Joy Cleanse toy cleaner is a spray that suits silicone and glass and takes seconds, which matters when you are tired and the alternative is a shrug. Keep ordinary soap and shower gel off silicone where you can, because perfumes and moisturisers can leave a film behind.

Dry the toy completely with a clean towel before it goes away. Silicone stored damp in a sealed bag is a perfect environment for nothing good. If two of you are using the same toy in one session, either wash it between turns or put a condom on it and change the condom.

Materials you can actually get clean

Non-porous is the word that matters. Silicone, glass, stainless steel and hard ABS plastic can be washed thoroughly and dried. Porous materials such as jelly rubber and some TPE blends hold moisture and are much harder to clean properly, which is more of a problem if you are prone to thrush.

The Spectrum ribbed glass dildo is non-porous, can be washed in hot water, and can be warmed or cooled for temperature play. The Nauti silicone bullet is plain silicone for external use and is easy to keep clean. If you would rather not think about material compatibility at all, building a small collection of silicone only keeps the cleaning rules simple.

Lubricant choices that do not irritate

Fragrance and flavourings are the usual suspects when a lubricant causes trouble. If you are prone to irritation, start with a plain water based product and give it a few days. The Sliquid Naturals H20 is a straightforward water based formula, and the Sliquid Organics Natural keeps the ingredient list shorter for people who react to additives.

Oil based products such as the YES natural plant oil lubricant suit external massage and play, but they weaken latex condoms and are best avoided internally if thrush keeps returning. Our guide to silicone and water based lubricants explains the one rule worth memorising: silicone lubricant and silicone toys do not mix. If your skin is reactive in general, the sensitive skin lubricant guide goes further.

Condoms and dams when you share

Changing partners, or sharing one toy between two people, is where a condom earns its place. Mates SKYN original and Mates SKYN extra lubricated are non latex, which helps if latex itself irritates you. The Glyde Ultra vegan condoms are latex and vegan, and the Sheer Glyde dams cover oral play.

Use a fresh one each time, and check the lubricant you are using is compatible. Oil based lubricant damages latex within minutes, while water based and silicone based lubricants are fine.

If thrush or UTIs keep coming back

Look at the whole week rather than the toy. Tight clothing, scented washes, staying in damp swimwear and a course of antibiotics all move the balance too, and a toy that was cleaned perfectly will not fix any of them. Wash hands before play, keep toys to yourself where you can, and give your body a day or two off when symptoms start rather than pushing through.

If you are getting four or more episodes a year, or symptoms that do not settle with an over the counter treatment, that is worth a conversation with a GP rather than another round of guesswork.

Menopause does not switch off desire, but it usually changes how arousal feels and how the body responds to touch. Oestrogen levels fall, natural lubrication drops, and the skin around the vulva and vagina can become thinner, drier and more sensitive. Sex that was easy at forty can sting at fifty, which is confusing when the wanting is still there. The answer is rarely to try harder. It is to change the tools and the pace.

What actually changes

Perimenopause can begin in the early forties, years before periods stop, so the first changes often arrive without a label. Less natural lubrication is the most obvious one. Blood flow to the pelvic area also slows, which means arousal takes longer to build and may feel less urgent than it used to. The tissue itself becomes less elastic, and some people notice urinary symptoms alongside the changes in sex.

None of that makes sex impossible, and the preparation it now needs is simple.

Moisturisers and lubricants do different jobs

These two products are often treated as interchangeable. They are not.

A vaginal moisturiser is used regularly, typically every few days, whether or not you are having sex, to put moisture back into the tissue. A vaginal moisturising gel is the everyday product, and the smaller pack of the same gel is a cheap way to try it before committing to a full bottle.

A lubricant is used at the time, for sex or for a toy. If dryness has become a daily issue, a moisturiser does the background work and a lubricant handles the moment. Using both is normal and sensible, not excessive.

Choosing a lubricant that suits you

Start water based. A water based organic lubricant is pH matched, safe with condoms and safe with every toy material, which matters when the tissue is already sensitive. A natural intimate lubricant in the Sliquid range is another gentle option with a thicker feel that stays in place better.

Hybrid lubricants last longer before they need topping up. The Lubido hybrid moisturising lubricant is the practical size for regular use, and the smaller hybrid bottle fits a handbag or a weekend away.

Plant oil based lubricants are lovely for external massage but should not be used with latex condoms, and some people find them irritating internally. A plant oil personal lubricant is best kept for the parts of sex that happen outside the body. If your skin reacts to anything, our guide to sensitive skin and lubricant covers what to avoid, and the silicone versus water based comparison explains why silicone lubricant should never meet a silicone toy.

Toys that suit a more sensitive body

Vibration still works, but the settings that felt good in your thirties can feel sharp now. Look for toys with a low, rumbling start rather than a buzzy one, and use them over clothing or a towel first while you work out what your body wants.

Wands are the most forgiving shape because the head is broad and you control the pressure. The Svakom Emma Neo 2 is a medium sized wand with a soft head, the medium LELO Smart Wand 2 is heavier and rumblier, and the large Smart Wand 2 is the choice if you want broad, deep vibration rather than pinpoint stimulation.

For clitoral play, a small massager that sits still is often better than one that needs to be pressed. The LELO Nea 3 is slim and easy to hold at an angle, the LELO Sona 2 Cruise uses sonic pulses rather than friction, which suits tissue that has become tender, and the LELO Sila Cruise is the wider, softer version of the same idea. If you prefer internal stimulation with clitoral stimulation at the same time, the Svakom Amy 2 is shaped to reach both without much pressure. Our guide to clitoral suction toys explains why those toys need a lighter touch again.

Pace, pressure and honest feedback

Arousal that takes longer is not a failure, and rushing it is the most common reason sex becomes uncomfortable. Give yourself ten minutes of touching that has nothing to do with penetration. Reapply lubricant rather than pushing through dryness. If a position causes friction, change it, and side by side positions usually give you more control over depth and angle than being underneath.

Avoid anything marketed as a numbing product. Discomfort is information, and covering it up makes injury more likely. Tell your partner what has changed, in plain words, before rather than during. Most people would rather adjust than find out afterwards that it hurt.

Cleaning and when to speak to a doctor

Wash toys before and after use with a toy cleaner or warm water and mild soap, and dry them fully before storage, as covered in our guide to how often to clean your toys.

Dryness, discomfort and a changed sex life are worth raising with a GP or a menopause clinic rather than working around. Pain that persists, bleeding after sex, or repeated urinary infections are all treatable, and local oestrogen is widely prescribed for exactly this. You do not have to accept discomfort as the price of getting older.

Start with a moisturiser used regularly and a lubricant you like the feel of, then add one toy with a gentle low setting. That combination solves most of the problem.

Pheromone perfumes sit in an odd corner of the shop. They carry some of the boldest claims in the catalogue, so it is fair to ask what you are paying for. This guide explains what a pheromone is, what the science supports, and how to get the most out of what we stock.

What a pheromone actually is

In biology, a pheromone is a chemical that one member of a species releases to trigger a specific response in another member of the same species. They are well documented in insects, where a single molecule can draw a mate from far away. Whether humans have working pheromones of the same kind is a much harder question, and the honest answer is that nobody has proved it.

The compounds used in commercial "pheromone" fragrances are usually synthetic versions of molecules found in human sweat and skin, such as androstadienone. They have been studied for decades, but the results are inconsistent, and the more careful reviews conclude there is still no convincing proof they change how attracted someone is to you. The researcher who has reviewed the field most thoroughly, Tristram Wyatt, has argued the whole idea needs a fresh approach.

That is not a reason to avoid them, but it is a good reason to buy with clear expectations. What you are buying is a fragrance, usually a well made one, with a pheromone blend added. If it works for you, it will most likely work the way any good scent does: it changes how you feel, and that changes how you carry yourself. Confidence is not nothing, but it is not a chemical switch.

What we stock

Everything we carry in this area is from PheroStrong, and it splits into two types.

The scented perfumes are 50ml sprays with a pheromone blend built into a proper fragrance. Two are unisex. The PheroStrong Pheromone DUO Unisex is bright at the top, with bergamot, mandarin and pear over oud and white flowers. The PheroStrong Pheromone SOMA Unisex is the darker of the pair, with a green, slightly resinous opening, a heart of coffee and tobacco, and a creamy sandalwood base.

If you want something for everyday wear, PheroStrong Pheromone Perfect for Men is the fresh, easy one, with pink pepper and mint, melon and pineapple, then cedarwood and amber. Its counterpart, PheroStrong Pheromone Perfect for Women, leads on lychee and a velvety rose heart over warm amber. For a sharper, more classic scent there is PheroStrong Pheromone for Men, with grapefruit, marine notes and mandarin over bay leaf and patchouli, and for the fruitiest option, PheroStrong Pheromone Popularity for Women, the most expensive bottle in the range.

Then there are the fragrance free concentrates, one for men and one for women. These have no scent of their own, so you can layer one under a fragrance you already own.

How to wear it

All of these are worn the same way, and the product pages give the same direction: spray a small amount on the wrists, neck or behind the ears. Because the concentrates have no scent, apply a few drops to the pulse points first and let them settle before you add your usual perfume or aftershave.

A few practical points are worth keeping in mind. Start with one or two sprays, because a fragrance is much more noticeable to the people around you than it is to you. Skin chemistry varies, so the same bottle can smell different on two people, so it is worth a small trial before a big occasion. And treat the notes on the listing the way you would any perfume: they describe the scent, not the result. Our guide to how to read a product listing explains how to check the rest of the detail before you buy.

Care and sensible use

Keep these for external use only and away from the eyes, and patch test on a small area of skin first if you have reacted to perfume before. Store the bottle somewhere cool and dry, out of direct sunlight and away from heat, and keep it out of the reach of children. A 50ml bottle lasts several months of regular use, and the concentrates go further because you only need a few drops.

Choosing one, honestly

If you are buying a bottle as a gift, our guide to buying adult wellness gifts without it being awkward covers how to choose for someone else. If you are building an evening around it, a pheromone fragrance pairs naturally with a slower pace, which our guide to sensual massage for couples covers.

If you simply want the short version: buy it as a fragrance you enjoy, wear it because it makes you feel good, and treat any effect beyond that as a bonus rather than a promise.

Browse the full pheromones collection to see every scent and concentrate in stock, and check the product page for the current price before you decide, since Lushplay runs promotions through the year. Every order ships in plain, unbranded packaging, and our delivery page explains the rest.

How Often Should You Clean Your Toys?

Knowing how often to clean your toys is one of the simplest and most important habits in the world of pleasure. The short answer is that you should clean your toys before every use and after every use, every single time, no exceptions. It takes less than a minute, and it protects your health, keeps your toys in great condition and makes every session feel fresh and enjoyable.

Beyond that simple rule, there is a little more to know. Different situations, such as sharing toys or using them internally, call for a little extra care, and a deeper clean now and then keeps your collection in top shape. In this guide we explain the routine, why it matters and when to go the extra mile.

The Simple Answer: Before and After Every Use

Clean your toys after every single use. This removes body fluids, lubricant and the bacteria that naturally live on our skin before they have a chance to build up or dry on the surface. Cleaning afterwards means your toy is stored clean and ready, so there is no awkward scrubbing later and no risk of using a dirty toy because you were in a hurry.

You should also give the toy a quick clean just before you use it, even if it has been sitting in a drawer or bag. Stored toys pick up dust, lint and the occasional microscopic hitchhiker, so a quick rinse or wipe with a dedicated toy cleaner makes sure you are always starting fresh. Between the before and after clean, your toys are safe and pleasant every single time.

Why After Every Use Matters

Bacteria and yeast multiply quickly, especially in warm, moist conditions. A toy left dirty after use gives those microbes a perfect home, and when you use that toy again, they can be transferred straight to your body. For anyone prone to irritation, thrush or urinary tract infections, a dirty toy is one of the easiest problems to fix, and a clean one is one of the simplest ways to stay comfortable.

Cleaning after every use also protects the toy itself. Body fluids and lubricant can leave residues that attract dust and degrade materials over time, especially softer materials. A quick clean with warm water and a dedicated cleaner such as the Loving Joy Cleanse Sex Toy Cleaner 250ml keeps the surface smooth and the toy in great condition for years.

Extra Care for Shared and Internal Toys

When a toy is shared between partners, or moves between different parts of the body, go a step further than a basic clean. Sanitise the toy between users using boiling, a dishwasher cycle or an antibacterial cleaner, since a simple wash does not reliably kill all microbes. It is a small extra step that keeps everyone safe and relaxed.

Toys used internally also deserve a little extra attention, because they come into contact with the most sensitive and absorbent tissue. Wash them thoroughly after every internal use, and consider a deeper clean more often. The same applies after anal play, where thorough cleaning and sanitising is essential before the toy touches any other part of the body. Our article on how to clean, sanitise and store adult toys covers the full routine in detail.

Deep Cleans and Ongoing Maintenance

Alongside the everyday clean, schedule a deeper clean every so often. Boil 100% silicone, glass and metal toys for a few minutes, or run them through the dishwasher, to give them a proper sanitise. For electronic toys, a thorough wipe with an antibacterial toy cleaner does the job without risking the motor. A dedicated cleaner like the Loving Joy Cleanse Sex Toy Cleaner 100ml is perfect for this kind of routine maintenance.

Your hands deserve a mention too. Washing your hands before and after handling toys is a tiny habit that adds real protection, since our hands pick up bacteria from everything we touch throughout the day. Similarly, changing condoms and washing up between partners and between different types of play keeps everyone comfortable and reduces the risk of passing anything along. These small steps work together with regular toy cleaning to keep your whole routine safe and simple, and they take almost no extra time once they become second nature.

If you are new to toy care, do not overthink it. Start with the golden rule of cleaning before and after every use, add a monthly deep clean for the toys that need it, and build the habit gradually. Before long it will feel completely automatic, and you will barely notice the few extra seconds it takes while enjoying the peace of mind that comes with knowing everything is clean, ready and safe whenever the mood strikes. That peace of mind is worth far more than the effort it costs.

Also take a moment now and then to check your toys for signs of wear. Torn, sticky or damaged surfaces are a sign it is time to replace the toy, since damaged materials cannot be cleaned properly. Store everything clean and dry in individual bags, keep lube and cleaner close at hand, and your collection will stay hygienic, organised and ready whenever you are.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I really need to clean toys after every use?

Yes. Cleaning after every use takes seconds and prevents bacteria and yeast from building up. It is the single most important habit for safe, comfortable play.

How often should I do a deep clean of my toys?

A monthly deep clean is a good habit, and you should also deep clean before sharing a toy or after internal or anal use. Boiling works for silicone, glass and metal.

Can I get an infection from a dirty toy?

Yes. Bacteria, yeast and other microbes on a dirty toy can cause irritation, thrush and infections. Regular cleaning with a dedicated toy cleaner greatly reduces this risk.

Make Cleaning Part of the Routine

A few seconds of cleaning keeps your toys safe and your body happy. Stock up on the essentials from our toy care and hygiene range, including cleaners in every size, and make the habit automatic. We deliver across the UK in discreet packaging.

Discreet Toy Storage: Keeping It Private

For many people, discreet toy storage is just as important as the toys themselves. Whether you share a home with family, have curious children, or simply value your privacy, the last thing you want is for your collection to be discovered. Smart, discreet storage lets you keep your toys exactly where you need them without drawing attention or causing awkward questions.

The good news is that discreet storage does not mean sacrificing quality or convenience. There are plenty of attractive, practical options that look like ordinary home items while keeping your toys clean, organised and completely private. In this guide we cover the best approaches to discreet storage, from lockable boxes to space saving ideas for small homes.

Why Discretion Matters

Privacy around intimate items is a deeply personal thing, and there is no right or wrong level of discretion, only what makes you comfortable. Some people want their toys tucked out of sight for their own peace of mind, while others share a home where privacy is a practical concern. Good storage solves both, keeping your collection organised and your mind at ease.

Discreet storage also protects your toys. A toy left in a drawer among clothes collects dust and lint, while a toy stored in a proper bag or box stays clean, separate and hygienic. The same storage that keeps your toys private also keeps them in better condition, which means discreet storage is really a win for both privacy and longevity.

Lockable and Opaque Options

For the highest level of privacy, a lockable storage box is the way to go. A plain, opaque box with a small lock keeps everything secure from curious hands while looking like nothing more than an ordinary storage container. This is especially reassuring in homes with children or with visitors who might open drawers. Choose a box that is wide enough for your largest toy and deep enough to keep everything comfortably.

Fabric storage bags are a softer, more flexible option. The Safe Sex Anti-Bacterial Toy Bag Large is opaque, discreet and antibacterial, and it slips into a drawer or suitcase without looking like anything out of the ordinary. If you have a larger collection, the Safe Sex Anti-Bacterial Toy Bag Large offers more room while keeping everything neatly contained and private.

Think about what fits your routine rather than copying anyone else. A couple who plays mostly at weekends might want a simple zipped pouch, while someone who uses toys frequently will appreciate a dedicated box that keeps everything visible and easy to grab. A travel bag is invaluable if you take toys away with you, because it keeps them clean, protected and entirely private in a suitcase or overnight bag.

Labels can be your friend. If you store toys in a plain box, a neutral label such as “cosmetics” or “spares” keeps things discreet while helping you find everything quickly. Alternatively, choose storage that needs no label at all, like a fabric bag that looks like laundry or a slim case that resembles a toiletry kit. The most discreet option is always the one that looks completely unremarkable.

If you live with others, it also helps to make a small agreement about privacy. Many people find that a quiet, honest conversation about boundaries, that some items are personal and not to be disturbed, removes all the worry from storage choices. With that understanding in place, a simple locked box or an opaque bag is all you need to feel completely at ease in your own home.

Space Saving Ideas for Small Homes

Limited space is no barrier to discreet storage. Look for storage that uses vertical or hidden space, such as boxes that slide under the bed, fabric organisers that hang inside wardrobe doors, or discreet containers tucked behind other items on a shelf. A plain box labelled with something mundane, or a fabric pouch at the bottom of a linen basket, blends into any room.

Think about where you actually use your toys when choosing a spot. A toy you only use in the bedroom should be stored close to the bed, while a travel friendly bag suits toys you take away with you. The ideal discreet storage is one you can reach easily but that no one else would ever think to look in, and it works best when it is part of your existing furniture rather than an obvious addition.

Organising Inside Your Storage

Once you have chosen a discreet home for your toys, a little internal organisation goes a long way. Keep each toy in its own bag or pouch so they do not touch, which protects the materials and keeps everything hygienic. Storing a bottle of water based lube and your toy cleaner alongside your toys means the whole routine stays in one private place.

Regularly check what is inside and give everything a clean before it goes back. A quick wipe with a dedicated toy cleaner and a thorough dry keeps your stored collection fresh and ready. For a full guide to the whole care routine, our article on cleaning, sanitising and storing adult toys walks through it step by step.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the best discreet storage for toys?

A lockable, opaque box or an antibacterial fabric bag offers the best combination of privacy and protection. Choose whichever fits your space and your collection.

How can I store toys discreetly with children at home?

Use a lockable box kept out of reach, or store toys in an opaque, labelled bag inside your own wardrobe. Lockable options give the most peace of mind.

Do I need separate storage for each toy?

Each toy should be in its own bag or pouch so they do not touch. Silicone toys and toys of different materials can react or stain when stored together.

Keep It Private and Organised

Discreet storage gives you privacy without compromising on care. Browse our toy care and storage range to find antibacterial bags, cleaners and accessories that keep your collection safe, clean and completely private. We deliver across the UK in discreet packaging.

Oil-Based Lube: Uses and Cautions

Oil based lube is the oldest lubricant in the book, and for good reason. Natural oils such as coconut, olive and almond have been used for centuries because they feel wonderfully thick, nourishing and long lasting. Oil based lubes are brilliant for massage, for solo play and for skin-to-skin contact, and they are a favourite of people who want a rich, cushioning glide that does not dry out.

That said, oil based lube comes with one very important rule that everyone should know before reaching for the bottle. In this guide we look at what oil based lube is, where it shines, the crucial caution around latex condoms, and how to choose and use it safely so you get the best from it.

What Oil Based Lube Is

Oil based lubricants are made from natural or mineral oils rather than water or silicone. They include plant oils such as coconut, olive, jojoba and almond oil, as well as specially blended products designed for intimate use. Because they are oil based, they do not evaporate like water based lubes, which means they stay slippery for a very long time and rarely need topping up, even during long sessions.

Oil based lubes also have a wonderfully thick, cushioning feel that many people love. They glide smoothly and generously, and they are kind to the skin, leaving it soft and moisturised rather than dry and tight. For massage and for skin-on-skin play, nothing quite matches the luxurious sensation of a good oil based lubricant.

Where Oil Based Lube Shines

Oil based lube is perfect for massage, where its rich glide and skin nourishing properties really come into their own. It is also excellent for solo play, for external stimulation and for sex without condoms where both partners are sure of their STI status and pregnancy risk. For anyone who wants deep, lasting glide that does not need constant reapplying, oil based lube is a superb choice.

The YES Natural Plant-Oil Based Personal Lubricant 80ml is a beautifully formulated example, made from organic plant oils and designed specifically for intimate use. Similarly, the Sliquid Soul Coconut Oil Moisturiser is a gentle, body friendly option that doubles as a skin moisturiser. When paired with plenty of care, these natural oils deliver a rich, comfortable experience that many people prefer over any other type of lube.

Oil based lube is also a firm favourite for sex toys that are not made from latex, such as silicone, glass and metal toys. Since it lasts so long, it pairs beautifully with a longer, more relaxed session, and it rinses off these materials easily with warm water and a little toy cleaner. Just avoid oil based lube with toys made from softer porous materials, which can absorb oil and become damaged over time.

As with any new product, take your time when trying an oil based lubricant for the first time. Apply a small amount to your skin and wait a little while to check for any reaction, especially if you have sensitive skin or a history of allergies. If all is well, enjoy the rich, nourishing glide, and keep a water based lube on hand for condom-friendly play and everyday use with toys.

The Latex Condom Warning

Here is the crucial caution: oil based lube must never be used with latex condoms. Oils break down latex, weakening the material so it is far more likely to tear or break during use. That means coconut oil, massage oils, olive oil and any other oil based lubricant are off the table whenever a latex condom is involved, because a broken condom removes all your protection.

If you want to use condoms and prefer an oil based lube, you must switch to non-latex options such as polyisoprene or polyurethane condoms, which are safe with oils. For everyone using standard latex condoms, the safe choices are water based and silicone based lubricants, which are completely condom compatible. Our guide to water, silicone and oil based lubes compares all three types in detail.

Choosing and Using Oil Based Lube Safely

If you decide oil based lube is right for you, choose a product designed for intimate use rather than a random bottle of massage oil, since specialist formulas are tested for body safety and tend to avoid additives that irritate delicate skin. The hybrid and oil based lubricants range is a good place to browse body safe options.

Oil based lube is also best avoided for internal vaginal use if you are prone to irritation or thrush, since oils can disrupt the natural balance for some people. It is also harder to wash off than water based lube, so you will usually need a little soap or a gentle cleanser to remove it from skin, sheets and toys. Always check the labels of any products you combine, and patch test before full use.

If you prefer something simpler for everyday use with toys and partners, a water based lube like the Lubido Water Based Lubricant 30ml is a dependable, versatile choice. Many people keep both an oil based lube for massage and a water based lube for everyday play, giving them the best of every world.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is coconut oil safe to use as lube?

Coconut oil is safe for many people for solo and skin-to-skin play, but it is not safe with latex condoms and can upset the natural balance for some. Patch test and use it with care.

Can oil based lube be used with all condoms?

No. Oil based lube weakens latex condoms and must only be used with non-latex options such as polyisoprene or polyurethane. Water and silicone based lubes are safe with all condoms.

Does oil based lube last longer than water based?

Yes. Oil based lube does not evaporate or absorb as quickly, so it stays slippery much longer. That is one of its main advantages for long sessions and massage.

Choose the Right Lube for Every Occasion

Oil based lube is wonderful when used correctly. Browse our hybrid and oil based options and our full range of lubricants to find the perfect bottle for massage, solo play and everything in between. We ship across the UK in discreet packaging.

Sensitive Skin and Lubricant: What to Choose

If you have sensitive skin, choosing the right lubricant is about far more than comfort. The wrong formula can cause burning, itching, redness and irritation that completely ruin a session, while the right one glides on with nothing more than a pleasant, natural feel. The good news is that there are plenty of carefully formulated lubricants designed specifically for sensitive bodies, so you never have to settle for discomfort.

Sensitive skin reactions to lube are usually triggered by specific ingredients rather than the lube itself. Once you know which ingredients to avoid and which to look for, picking a kind, gentle lubricant becomes simple. In this guide we walk through the common culprits, the soothing ingredients worth seeking out and the best choices for sensitive skin.

Why Sensitive Skin Reacts

The tissue of the vulva, vagina and penis is thinner and more absorbent than skin elsewhere on the body, which means it is quick to react to whatever it touches. Common triggers include added fragrances, dyes, parabens, propylene glycol and glycerin. Glycerin can be especially problematic for people prone to thrush, since it feeds yeast, while strong fragrance can irritate even skin that is not usually sensitive.

Sometimes the reaction is not an allergy at all but simple irritation, which happens when a product contains too many ingredients or an ingredient that disrupts the natural balance of the area. For anyone who has experienced this, the answer is usually to choose simpler formulas with fewer ingredients. A gentle, water based lubricant made from minimal, skin friendly components is often all your body is looking for.

Ingredients to Avoid

Start by reading the label and steering clear of the common irritants. Avoid anything with added fragrance or perfume, which is one of the most frequent causes of reactions. Glycerin and sugars should also be avoided, especially if you are prone to thrush, since they can disrupt the natural yeast balance. Parabens and propylene glycol are two more ingredients that sensitive bodies often struggle with.

It is also worth being cautious with warming, cooling or tingling lubes. These work by deliberately creating a strong sensation, and while they are fun for some people, they can be intensely uncomfortable for those with sensitive skin. Even if the base formula is gentle, the added active ingredients can tip it into irritant territory, so it is best to stick to simple, unflavoured, non-stimulating formulas.

Ingredients to Look For

The best lubricants for sensitive skin are simple and close to nature. Aloe vera is soothing and helps moisturise, while chamomile and calendula have calming properties. A water based formula that is fragrance free, glycerin free and pH balanced will respect the delicate balance of your body while providing all the glide you need. The YES Organic Water Based Personal Lubricant 100ml is a lovely example, made from organic, minimal ingredients and formulated for the most sensitive of bodies.

Look for lubricants that explicitly state they are suitable for sensitive skin and free from the usual offenders. The Sliquid Organics Natural Intimate Lubricant 59ml is another gentle option, organic, unscented and free from glycerin, parabens and fragrance. Many people with sensitive skin also find that the more natural formulas simply feel better, lighter and more comfortable than heavily engineered alternatives.

The Best Choices for Sensitive Skin

For most people with sensitive skin, a simple, fragrance free water based lube is the safest starting point. The Lubido Water Based Lubricant 30ml is an excellent place to begin, gentle, unfragranced and suitable for everyday use with toys and partners alike. Water based lubes also wash off easily and rarely leave the kind of residue that can build up and irritate over time.

If you prefer a little extra cushioning or want something longer lasting, a hybrid formula or a gentle organic gel can work well. You can browse the full range of water based lubes and the hybrid and organic options to compare what is available. Always choose a product that lists its ingredients clearly, because transparency is your best friend when it comes to sensitive skin.

Finally, always do a patch test before using a new lubricant. Apply a small amount to your inner arm or the inside of your wrist and wait a few minutes to check for any reaction. This quick step takes almost no time and gives you total confidence that a product agrees with you before it touches the parts that matter most.

Keep in mind that your skin can change over time. A formula that suited you for years may suddenly feel irritating after a course of antibiotics, a change in hormones or a new medication, so it is wise to stay flexible and listen to your body. When your skin feels at its most reactive, simplifying to the most minimal, gentle formula you own is the kindest thing you can do, and you can always return to richer options once things settle down.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I use coconut oil as lube if I have sensitive skin?

Many people with sensitive skin love coconut oil, but it is not suitable for everyone and is unsafe with latex condoms. Patch test first, and remember that water based lubes are the safest all round choice.

What is the safest lube for sensitive skin?

A fragrance free, glycerin free, pH balanced water based lubricant with minimal natural ingredients is the safest choice. Organic formulas designed for sensitive skin are an excellent place to start.

Can lube cause thrush?

Yes, if it contains sugar or glycerin, which can feed yeast. Choosing a glycerin free, sugar free lubricant reduces the risk for anyone prone to thrush.

Find a Lube Your Skin Will Love

You should never have to choose between comfort and pleasure. Browse our gentle water based lubes and organic and hybrid options to find a formula your sensitive skin will thank you for. We stock only body safe products and deliver across the UK in discreet packaging.

How to Sanitize Toys Between Partners

Learning how to sanitize toys properly is essential whenever toys are shared between partners. Unlike a quick clean after personal use, sanitising goes a step further to eliminate bacteria, viruses and other microbes that a simple rinse might miss. When a toy moves from one person’s body to another’s, taking the time to sanitise properly keeps everyone safe, comfortable and free from infections.

The good news is that sanitising is not complicated. It comes down to knowing your toy’s material, choosing the right method for it, and building a simple routine that you can rely on every time. In this guide we explain the difference between cleaning and sanitising, cover the best methods for each material and walk you through a simple routine for shared play.

Cleaning vs Sanitising: What Is the Difference?

Cleaning removes visible dirt, lubricant and body fluids, along with most of the microbes sitting on the surface. It is what you do after every single use, and for solo play it is usually all you need. You can clean most toys with warm water and a mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner, then dry them thoroughly.

Sanitising goes further and actually kills the microorganisms that cleaning may leave behind. This matters when a toy is going to be shared between partners, when it is used for different types of play in one session, or when it is new and arriving from a shop. Sanitising uses heat, boiling water or a specialist antibacterial cleaner to ensure the toy is genuinely safe for the next person who uses it.

How to Sanitise by Material

100% body safe silicone is the easiest material to sanitise because it loves heat. Wash the toy first, then boil it in a pan of water for around three to five minutes, or place it in the dishwasher on a hot cycle without detergent. You can also soak it in a diluted bleach solution, about one part bleach to nine parts water, then rinse very thoroughly. Silicone tolerates all of these methods brilliantly.

Glass and metal toys are just as straightforward. Wash them, then boil them for a few minutes or clean them in the dishwasher. Their non-porous surfaces shrug off bacteria and dry quickly, making them wonderful choices if you share toys often. Just let them cool completely before use, since they hold heat surprisingly well.

Electronic toys such as vibrators need a gentler approach, because you cannot boil the motor. For waterproof models, wash thoroughly with a dedicated toy cleaner and then soak or wipe with an antibacterial cleaner, avoiding the charging port. For non-waterproof toys, use a toy cleaner spray and a soft cloth, never submerging the electronics. The Loving Joy Cleanse Sex Toy Cleaner 250ml is designed for exactly this job.

Porous materials such as TPR and TPE cannot be fully sanitised because bacteria hide inside their pores. The safest rule is to never share these toys between partners at all. If you want toys you can share freely, choose silicone, glass or metal instead, which is one of the many reasons our article on body safe toy materials recommends them.

A Simple Routine for Shared Play

Build a routine that makes sanitising automatic. After a shared session, wash the toys immediately with warm water and toy cleaner, then sanitise them using the method that suits their material. Dry them completely before storing, since moisture encourages bacteria. Keep a dedicated toy cleaner and any sanitising supplies in the same place you store your toys, so the whole process takes minutes.

It is also good practice to sanitise a new toy when it first arrives, before you use it even solo. Toys travel through warehouses and packaging, so a quick wash and sanitise gives you a clean, fresh start. And if a toy is being passed from one partner to another mid-session, pause to wash and sanitise it between uses, or use a separate toy for each person to keep things simple.

Using plenty of water based lubricant can also reduce the transfer of fluids between partners, and washing your hands and changing condoms between people are small habits that add up to safe, relaxed shared play. For the full picture of keeping toys clean, sanitised and stored, our guide to cleaning, sanitising and storing adult toys walks through everything step by step.

Keep a separate set of cleaning supplies just for your toys, so you never accidentally reach for a household spray that could damage them. A designated bottle of toy cleaner, a soft cloth and a small pan for boiling are all you need, and keeping them together with your toys makes the habit effortless. When everyone knows where everything lives, sanitising becomes a quick, automatic part of ending a shared session rather than a chore. It also reassures each partner that the same care is always taken, which is the foundation of relaxed, confident shared play.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long should I boil a silicone toy?

Boil a 100% silicone toy for about three to five minutes after washing it first. Let it cool completely before use, and check your toy’s care instructions to confirm it can be boiled.

Can I share TPR or TPE toys between partners?

It is best not to. These materials are porous and cannot be fully sanitised, so bacteria can remain trapped inside. Choose silicone, glass or metal for toys you plan to share.

Is washing with soap enough before sharing?

Soap and water clean the surface but do not reliably kill all microbes. Before sharing a toy, sanitise it with boiling, a dishwasher cycle or an antibacterial toy cleaner for extra safety.

Sanitise With Confidence

Sharing toys should feel fun, not stressful. Stock up on the right toy care and hygiene products so sanitising is quick and easy every time. We stock body safe cleaners and care essentials, delivered across the UK in discreet packaging.

Sex Toy Materials: A Complete Safety Guide

Understanding sex toy materials is the single most important thing you can do before you buy. The material determines how a toy feels, how easy it is to clean, how long it lasts and, most importantly, how safe it is for your body. Toys made from poor quality materials can harbour bacteria, react with skin and even break down over time, which is the last thing anyone wants from something used on delicate tissue.

The good news is that the world of body safe materials is easy to understand once you know the basics. A handful of excellent materials cover the vast majority of quality toys, and a few materials are best avoided or handled with care. In this guide we break it all down so you can shop with confidence and choose toys that are safe, comfortable and built to last.

Why Material Matters

Sex toys sit against some of the most sensitive skin on your body, and some are used internally. That means the material comes into direct contact with your mucous membranes, which absorb substances far more readily than the skin on your arms or legs. A toy made with harmful plasticisers, phthalates or other chemicals can leach those substances into your body and cause irritation, burning or allergic reactions.

Material also affects hygiene. Non-porous materials such as silicone, glass and metal have a smooth, sealed surface that bacteria cannot penetrate, which makes them easy to clean and safe to share between partners after proper sanitising. Porous materials such as TPR, TPE and jelly have tiny pores that trap fluids and bacteria, which can make them impossible to fully clean and risky to share. Choosing the right material protects both your health and your investment.

Body Safe Materials You Can Trust

Body safe silicone is the gold standard. It is non-porous, hypoallergenic, silky to the touch and incredibly durable. Silicone toys can be washed with soap and water, boiled or placed in the dishwasher for a deep clean, and they do not absorb anything from your body. The Adrien Lastic Cushioned Core Suction Cup Silicone Dildo is a lovely example of quality silicone in practice, with a soft, realistic feel that stays hygienic for years with simple care.

Glass and metal toys are another excellent choice. Borosilicate glass is non-porous, smooth and stunningly beautiful, and it can be sterilised in boiling water. It also retains temperature, which allows for delightful warm and cool play. The Spectrum Nubby Textured Glass Dildo shows how textured glass can add sensation while remaining effortlessly easy to clean. Metal toys made from body safe steel offer similar benefits, though with a heavier weight and a firmer feel.

ABS plastic is the hard, non-porous plastic used in many vibrators and bullet toys. It is body safe, easy to wipe clean and durable. Just check that the toy is made from ABS rather than unknown plastics, since cheap unbranded plastics can contain phthalates. When in doubt, stick to well reviewed toys from reputable brands that state their materials clearly. For a closer look at how these options compare, read our guide to silicone versus glass and metal toys.

Porous Materials: Handle With Care

TPR and TPE are soft, squishy materials used in many budget and realistic toys because they feel wonderfully skin-like. The problem is that they are porous. Bacteria, fluids and lubricant can get trapped in their pores, which makes them harder to clean thoroughly and impossible to fully sanitise. They are fine for personal solo use with careful cleaning, but they should never be shared between partners and they tend to wear out faster than silicone.

Jelly rubber and PVC toys are the ones to treat with the most caution. Some contain phthalates and other plasticisers that can leach out and irritate sensitive tissue, and they often have a strong chemical smell. If a toy has an odour, feels oily or sticky, or was suspiciously cheap, it is a strong sign of low quality material. It is always worth paying a little more for a body safe material you can trust.

Whatever material you choose, the right care keeps it safe and long lasting. Washing after every use with warm water and a dedicated toy cleaner, drying thoroughly and storing toys separately all protect your toys and your health. For the full cleaning routine, our article on how to clean and care for adult toys is a helpful reference to keep on hand.

How to Check What a Toy Is Made Of

Responsible manufacturers state the material clearly on the packaging and product page. Look for explicit phrases such as “100% body safe silicone” rather than vague terms like “skin-like material” or “medical grade”, which are often used loosely. When a listing does not say what a toy is made from, that is a red flag, and it is better to choose a product that is transparent about its materials.

A few simple observations help at home. High quality silicone feels smooth and almost velvet-like, does not smell, and stays smooth after washing. If a toy has a strong chemical odour, feels tacky or greasy, or you are unsure of its material, it is not worth the risk. Buying from a reputable store with quality products takes the guesswork out of it, so you can focus on enjoying your toys rather than worrying about them.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is TPE safe to use?

TPE is safe for personal solo use with careful cleaning, but it is porous, so it cannot be fully sanitised and should never be shared between partners. Silicone is the safer, longer lasting choice.

Can silicone toys be boiled to clean them?

Yes. 100% silicone toys can be boiled for a few minutes or placed in the dishwasher for a deep clean. Always check the care instructions for your specific toy first.

How can I tell if a toy is real silicone?

Real silicone is smooth, odour free and non-porous. It does not feel sticky or greasy, and reputable brands always label it as body safe silicone on the packaging.

Choose Safe, Quality Materials

Your body deserves the best materials you can find. Browse our range of body safe toys and care products to find quality pieces made from silicone, glass and other trusted materials. Every product we stock is chosen with safety and longevity in mind, and we deliver across the UK in discreet packaging.