How to Insert a Dildo Comfortably

Whether it is your first dildo or your twentieth, there are moments when you want insertion to feel completely effortless. The good news is that comfortable insertion is a skill, and like any skill, it comes down to a few simple principles. Relaxation, lubrication, the right angle and a patient pace. This guide walks you through how to insert a dildo so it feels natural, smooth and genuinely pleasurable every single time.

Step One: Relax Your Body

Comfort starts long before the toy touches your skin. When your body is tense, the muscles around your vaginal or anal opening tighten, which makes insertion harder and less enjoyable. Give yourself time to relax: take slow, deep breaths, run a warm bath, or spend a few minutes on gentle external touch first. Being in a calm, private space where you will not be rushed makes an enormous difference.

For vaginal insertion, relaxation combined with arousal is the ideal state, because the body naturally prepares itself. For anal insertion, relaxation is absolutely essential, and the muscles need time to release. Whatever kind of play you enjoy, never force a toy in. If it is not slipping in easily, that is a signal to pause, breathe and adjust rather than push harder.

Step Two: Lubricate Generously

Lubricant is the single most effective tool for comfortable insertion. Apply a generous amount to the tip and shaft of the dildo, and to yourself as well, so the toy glides rather than drags. A water-based lubricant is perfect for silicone toys, silky enough for smooth insertion and easy to clean afterwards. For anal play, choose a thicker anal lubricant that stays put and lasts longer.

If you are unsure which bottle to pick, our guide to water-based, silicone and oil-based lubricants compares them all. The general rule is to use more than you think you need at first, then top up as you go. There is no such thing as too much lubricant when you are getting comfortable with a new toy.

Step Three: Find the Right Angle

Angle makes a big difference. The vagina is not straight up and down; it tilts towards the back, so a gentle angle towards the spine is usually the most natural path. Lying on your back with your knees bent and slightly apart is the easiest position to find this angle, because you can see what you are doing and guide the toy with full control.

For anal insertion, a different angle works better. Tilting the pelvis, such as lying on your side or on all fours, helps relax the muscles and opens up the path. Try a couple of positions and notice which one feels easiest for you. A smooth, gently tapered toy like the Loving Joy Slimline Silicone Dildo 5 Inch is ideal for learning, as its slim profile glides in with minimal effort.

Step Four: Take Your Time

Once the tip is resting at your opening, do not rush. Let the toy sit there for a moment while your body adjusts, then apply slow, gentle, steady pressure rather than a single push. Rock the toy slightly or rotate it as it eases in, and breathe out as you move. For most people, a gradual approach feels far better than a quick insertion, and it lets you feel exactly what is happening at each stage.

Stop whenever you want to, and remember that there is no need to take the whole toy. Insert as much as feels good and no more. You can build up depth over several sessions, and your comfort will improve each time. If you feel sharp pain, stop, add lubricant, change your angle or switch to a smaller toy. The Loving Joy 7.5 Inch Suction Cup Dildo has a gently tapered tip that makes gradual insertion very achievable, even for newer users.

Troubleshooting Common Discomfort

If insertion is uncomfortable, work through these one at a time. First, check your lubricant: are you using enough, and is it the right type? Second, check your relaxation: are you tense or rushing? Third, check your angle and position. Fourth, consider the size: a smaller, slimmer toy is always easier. Most discomfort comes from one of these four things, and fixing the culprit usually resolves the problem completely.

If you are inserting anally, a small butt plug used first can help your body get used to the sensation before moving to a dildo. And whether you are exploring vaginally or anally, clean your toy properly before and after every session with sex toy cleaner so it is always fresh and ready.

Another factor people overlook is timing. A full bladder or the need to use the bathroom can make insertion feel uncomfortable, so it is worth visiting the toilet beforehand if you can. For anal play, feeling clean and confident makes a huge difference to how relaxed you are, and some people like to plan their sessions for a time when they are unhurried and unlikely to be interrupted. Even a few extra minutes of calm before you begin allows your body to settle, and that relaxation shows up immediately in how easily the toy glides in.

Finally, remember that every session is different, and that is completely normal. Some days insertion will be effortless from the first moment; other days your body will need more time, more lubricant or a smaller toy. There is nothing wrong with stopping partway and trying again later, and experienced toy users do exactly that all the time. Treat each attempt as information rather than success or failure, and you will build confidence quickly. With a little patience and the right preparation, inserting a dildo becomes a natural, comfortable and genuinely pleasurable part of your play.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why does my dildo hurt when I insert it?

Usually it is a lack of lubricant, tension in your body, the wrong angle or a size that is too big for now. Slow down, add lubricant and switch to a smaller or slimmer toy if needed.

Should I insert a dildo fast or slow?

Always slow. Fast insertion rarely feels good and can cause discomfort. Go gradually, let your body adjust at each stage and increase depth only when it feels comfortable.

Do I need to use the whole dildo?

No. You only need to insert as much as feels good. Many people never take the full length of a toy, and that is completely normal and healthy.

Comfort Is the Whole Point

Inserting a dildo should feel good, and with relaxation, generous lubrication, the right angle and a patient pace, it will. Start small, go slowly and listen to your body, and every session will get easier and more enjoyable. Browse our silicone dildos and suction cup dildos for toys with gently tapered shapes, and keep your favourite water-based lubricant close at hand.

Double-Ended Dildos: A Guide to Shared Play

A double-ended dildo is exactly what it sounds like: a single toy with two insertable ends, designed for two partners to enjoy at the same time. It is one of the most playful and intimate toys you can bring into the bedroom, but it also works surprisingly well for solo play. This guide explains how double-ended dildos work, how to use them with a partner and what to look for when choosing one.

How Does a Double-Ended Dildo Work?

Double-ended dildos come in two main styles. The first is a long, flexible shaft with a head at each end, built for two people to lie facing each other and rock together in a shared rhythm. The second is a shorter, curved design where each partner takes one end, often in the classic missionary position, so both people feel connected to the same movement.

The shared connection is what makes these toys so special. Instead of one partner using a toy on the other, both partners experience penetration at the same time, moving together. It is a deeply intimate form of play that requires communication and teamwork, which is exactly why many couples love it. Double-ended toys can be used vaginally by both partners, or one end vaginally and the other anally, depending on what you both enjoy.

How to Use a Double-Ended Dildo with a Partner

Start by finding a comfortable position where both partners can reach the toy. Many couples begin facing each other, each guiding one end in, then gently rocking together once both are comfortable. The longer the toy, the more space you have to work with, which is why longer designs like the Loving Joy 15 Inch Double Ended Dildo are so popular for shared play.

Communication is everything. Agree on a pace, check in with each other, and stop or adjust whenever either partner needs it. Because both partners are moving, it is easy to accidentally go faster or deeper than intended, so go slow and find a rhythm that works for both of you. Plenty of water-based lubricant on both ends makes everything smoother and more comfortable.

Using a Double-Ended Dildo Solo

Do not think double-ended toys are only for couples. They are also wonderful for solo play. The extra length lets you hold one end while exploring deeper or different angles with the other, and you can use one end while stimulating other areas with the second. Some designs are also brilliant for assisted anal play, since the second end gives you something comfortable to grip while you focus on the first.

You can even combine a double-ended dildo with a harness. Loop or secure one end into a compatible strap-on setup and you effectively create a long strap-on dildo, giving the wearer and the receiver extra versatility. For more ideas, our strap-on sets and guides cover how to combine toys for the best of both worlds.

How to Choose a Double-Ended Dildo

Length is the first consideration. Longer toys, around 15 to 18 inches, give couples plenty of room for shared play and are easier to use in facing positions. Shorter designs are easier to control and better for beginners or for solo use. The Loving Joy 15 Inch Double Ended Dildo is a great middle ground, while the Loving Joy 18 Inch Double Ended Dildo adds even more length for those who want space to move.

Material and flexibility matter too. A flexible, body-safe material adapts to the movement of two bodies, while a firmer toy holds its shape for more deliberate stimulation. Always choose body-safe silicone or a clear, non-porous material and check that both ends are smooth and comfortable. A generous supply of water-based lubricant is essential, and cleaning both ends thoroughly after use with sex toy cleaner keeps the toy fresh and safe for next time.

For couples new to shared penetration, it is worth agreeing in advance which partner will guide the first insertion and what the signal to pause is. Because both people are experiencing sensation at the same time, it can be harder to coordinate than you might expect, and a little planning removes the awkwardness. Start in a position where you can see each other and adjust easily, keep the movement slow and rhythmic, and build up your shared confidence over a few sessions. Many couples find that the teamwork involved becomes part of the pleasure, deepening their connection far beyond the physical sensation alone.

Double-ended dildos are also an excellent way to explore anal and vaginal play in one session without needing two separate toys. One partner can enjoy vaginal penetration while the other takes the opposite end anally, provided both ends have a secure, flared design and you clean the toy thoroughly between the two uses. Communication and generous lubricant are even more important here, and a water-based formula is ideal because it is safe for every material and rinses away easily. However you choose to use it, the double-ended design rewards patience, so take your time and let the toy guide the rhythm.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is a double-ended dildo safe?

Yes, when it is made from body-safe material and cleaned properly. If one end is used anally, make sure the toy has a design that cannot slip fully inside, and clean it thoroughly before switching ends.

Can I use a double-ended dildo on my own?

Absolutely. The extra length is great for solo exploration of depth and angles, and you can hold one end while using the other. It is a versatile toy for every kind of play.

What lubricant should I use with a double-ended dildo?

A water-based lubricant works with every material and is easy to clean, making it the safest choice for shared play. Apply it to both ends and reapply as needed.

Discover Shared Play

A double-ended dildo brings a rare and beautiful kind of togetherness to the bedroom, and with the right length, material and plenty of lubricant, it is wonderfully easy to enjoy. Whether you share it with a partner or explore it solo, choose body-safe materials and clean it well after every session. Browse our range of double-ended and suction cup dildos and silicone dildos to find the perfect toy for your kind of play.

Best Dildos for Anal Play: A Guide

Anal play has become one of the most talked about and most rewarding forms of pleasure, and for good reason. The area is packed with sensitive nerve endings, and with the right toy and technique it can feel incredible for people of every gender. If you are curious about trying an anal dildo, this guide covers everything you need to choose a safe, comfortable toy and enjoy the experience from the very first session.

The Golden Rules of Anal Toys

Anal play has three non-negotiable rules. The first is the flared base. Anything inserted anally must have a wide, flared base or a ring that cannot slip past the muscles, because the anus can draw a toy inward. Every toy in our range that is suitable for anal play has a proper base, including all of our suction cup dildos and butt plugs.

The second rule is lubrication, and lots of it. The anus does not self-lubricate, so you cannot use too much. A thick anal lubricant is the best choice because it stays put and lasts longer than standard formulas. The third rule is to go slow. The anal muscles need time to relax, and rushing is the fastest way to make play uncomfortable. Relaxation, lubricant and patience are the whole secret.

What to Look For in an Anal Dildo

Body-safe silicone is the ideal material for anal toys. It is non-porous, easy to clean and gentle on the sensitive tissue. Soft or medium-firm silicone is more forgiving than a rigid material, making it perfect for beginners. Avoid any porous or unlabelled jelly toys, and make sure your chosen dildo has a wide, comfortable base.

Size matters more with anal play than any other kind, and the rule is to start small. A slim dildo with a gradual taper is far easier to insert than a wide one. If you are brand new, begin by training with a small butt plug, which is designed specifically to help you get used to the sensation. The Toosh Purple Silicone Butt Plug Small is an ideal first step, with a smooth shape and a secure flared base.

Starting Your First Anal Session

Begin when you are relaxed and unhurried, with plenty of time and privacy. Apply a generous amount of anal lubricant to the toy and the area, and start with gentle external stimulation to help the muscles relax. When you feel ready, rest the tip against the entrance and let your body open up to it slowly, using light pressure rather than pushing. The muscles should relax around the toy as you go.

Once the widest part is in, pause and breathe before moving further. You can rock the toy gently or hold it still while your body adjusts. A slim silicone dildo, like the Loving Joy 7.5 Inch Suction Cup Dildo used gently or a small anal plug, lets you explore depth at your own pace. Stop if you feel any sharp pain: that is a signal to slow down, add lubricant or take a break, and it is completely normal to stop a session there.

Moving On: When You Are Ready for More

Once a small toy feels comfortable, you can gradually work your way up in size. The transition from a butt plug to a small dildo is a natural next step, and a smooth silicone toy is easier than a heavily textured one. You may also enjoy combining a dildo with other stimulation, since many people find anal play far more intense when paired with clitoral or penile stimulation.

For prostate owners, a curved toy angled towards the front of the body can provide focused, deeply satisfying stimulation. For everyone, the key is to build slowly, use anal lubricant generously and never rush. If you are exploring with a partner, keep talking and let the receiver set the pace. Our guide to choosing your first dildo or massager has more advice on picking the right size and shape for your next step.

One question that comes up a lot is whether to start with a butt plug or go straight to a dildo. There is no rule that says you must use one before the other, but many people find a small plug a gentler introduction because it is short and its shape is designed to sit comfortably without moving much. Once you are relaxed and comfortable with that sensation, a slim dildo lets you begin exploring movement and depth in a more active way. Either route is fine, and you can switch between the two freely once you know what you enjoy. The most important thing is that every step is taken at a pace your body is happy with.

It is also worth saying that anal play does not have to involve penetration at all to be enjoyable. External stimulation, gentle massage and simply getting used to being touched in that area are all lovely starting points, and they build the relaxation that makes later insertion so much easier. The more comfortable you are with the general sensation, the less intimidating a dildo becomes. That preparation is not wasted time; it is the foundation of a genuinely pleasurable session, and it is exactly why experienced players always preach patience, lubricant and relaxation before anything else.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need a special dildo for anal play?

You need any dildo with a flared base and, ideally, a smooth body-safe material. Silicone toys with a suction cup base are a popular choice because the base prevents the toy from slipping in too far.

Does anal play hurt?

It should not. Discomfort means you need more lubricant, a smaller toy or more relaxation. Anal play is meant to feel good, so stop and adjust if you feel any sharp pain.

How do I clean an anal dildo?

Wash it thoroughly with warm water and a dedicated sex toy cleaner immediately after use. Because silicone is non-porous, it cleans easily and is ready for next time.

Explore Anal Play Comfortably

Anal play is a wonderfully rewarding form of pleasure when approached with the right toy and the right technique. Start small, use a flared base, keep anal lubricant close at hand and let relaxation lead the way. Explore our butt plugs, suction cup dildos and anal lubricants to build the perfect kit, all delivered in discreet packaging.

Curved vs Straight Dildos: What’s the Difference?

At a glance, one dildo looks much like another, but shape changes everything about how a toy feels. A straight dildo slides in and out in a simple line, while a curved dildo is designed to bend towards specific internal pleasure points. Understanding the difference between curved and straight designs helps you choose a toy that targets exactly the kind of stimulation you enjoy, so this guide breaks it all down. Whether you are completely new to dildos or simply curious about what a curve adds, knowing the strengths of each shape will save you time and help you pick a toy you genuinely love.

It is worth saying from the start that there is no “superior” shape. The right choice depends entirely on your body, your experience and the kind of sensation you are chasing on any given day. Some people find that they switch between straight and curved toys depending on mood, while others discover a clear preference within their first few sessions. The key is to understand what each shape is designed to do, then match it to the pleasure you are hoping to find.

What Does a Straight Dildo Do Best?

A straight dildo is simple, direct and predictable. It provides steady, even stimulation along the whole shaft, and because there is no curve to worry about, it is usually the easier design for beginners to control and insert. Straight toys are brilliant for discovering how your body responds to penetration, for practicing different depths and for general exploration without the complexity of angle.

Straight dildos also work beautifully for thrusting, whether by hand or with a partner, because the movement is clean and consistent in every direction. If you enjoy deep, rhythmic penetration and want a toy that behaves exactly as expected, a straight design is a dependable favourite. Many of our realistic dildos and silicone dildos are gently straight or only very slightly curved for exactly this reason.

What Does a Curved Dildo Do Differently?

A curved dildo bends along its length, and that deliberate angle is what makes it special. When you insert a curved toy so the bend points towards the front of the body, it presses directly against the internal front wall, the area associated with G-spot stimulation in people with a vagina. The result is a focused, stroking sensation that a straight toy simply cannot reproduce.

For people with a prostate, a curved dildo pointed towards the front of the body can deliver intense prostate stimulation with very little movement. Instead of thrusting, you can gently rock the toy or rotate it to stroke the sensitive area. This targeted stimulation is why curved toys are so highly regarded for internal pleasure play. A gently curved silicone toy, such as those found in our silicone dildo range, lets you press into that spot precisely without needing a lot of effort or movement.

Curved toys also give you the option of experimenting with the angle yourself. Because you can rotate the toy once it is inside, you can find the exact orientation that feels best, sweeping the curve gently from side to side or angling it to trace the front wall. Some people describe this as a “come here” motion, because the curve mimics the shape of a finger crooking towards the front of the body. It is a completely different sensation to the straight in and out rhythm of a linear toy, and many people who thought they knew what they liked are surprised by how much they enjoy it.

How to Choose Between the Two

Start by thinking about what you want to feel. If you are exploring penetration for the first time or simply enjoy classic, rhythmic play, a straight dildo is a brilliant place to begin. If you are curious about G-spot or prostate stimulation and want a toy that targets a specific internal point, a curved design is the better choice. It is also completely reasonable to own both, and many people do, reaching for whichever matches their mood and the kind of session they want.

It is also worth knowing that a curved toy does not have to be fully rigid. Soft silicone curved toys adapt to your body as they move, while firm ones hold their angle for focused pressure. You can still use a curved toy for general thrusting, and many people find the shape adds welcome variety even during straightforward penetration. A good place to start is a toy with a gentle rather than dramatic curve, since an extreme angle can feel intense for beginners. The Loving Joy 9.5 Inch Suction Cup Dildo and other smooth silicone options let you explore the angle at your own pace.

Your anatomy and preference matter more than any rule. Some people respond intensely to G-spot pressure and adore curves; others find them oversensitive and prefer the even glide of a straight toy. There is no wrong answer, and many toy owners end up with one of each in their collection. Adding a generous amount of water-based lubricant helps both designs feel their best, and experimenting with angles on a suction cup dildo can reveal exactly which shape you prefer.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is a curved dildo better than a straight one?

Neither is better overall; they are different tools. A curved dildo targets the G-spot or prostate with focused pressure, while a straight dildo gives clean, even stimulation. The right choice depends on what you want to feel.

Does a curved dildo hurt?

Not when used correctly. Because a curved toy presses on a specific point, it can feel intense, but it should never hurt. Use plenty of lubricant, go slowly and adjust the angle if it feels too focused.

Can I use a curved dildo for regular thrusting?

Yes. A curved toy works for standard penetration too, and many people enjoy the variety it adds. You can rotate it during play to change the sensation at different depths.

Find Your Preferred Shape

Whether you prefer the clean glide of a straight toy or the targeted pressure of a curved one, the best choice is the shape that makes you feel great. Start with what sounds appealing, keep water-based lubricant close by, and do not be afraid to experiment. Browse our full range of silicone dildos, realistic dildos and curved G-spot toys to find the shape that fits your body and desires.

How to Use a Dildo: Tips for Beginners

So you have chosen your first dildo, it has arrived in discreet packaging, and now you are standing there wondering where to begin. That moment is more common than you might think, and there is absolutely no right or wrong way to start. The most important thing is to feel relaxed and curious. This guide shares practical, friendly tips on how to use a dildo so your first session feels comfortable, enjoyable and entirely your own.

Prepare Before You Begin

A little preparation makes everything easier. Start by creating a calm, private space where you will not be interrupted, and have everything within reach: your dildo, some lubricant and a towel if you like. Clean your toy with warm water and a dedicated sex toy cleaner before you begin, even if it is brand new, so you know it is fresh and ready.

Relaxation is the single biggest factor in comfort. When you are tense, the muscles down there tighten up, which makes insertion harder and less pleasant. Take a few deep breaths, run a warm bath if that helps, or spend some time on general foreplay with yourself first. The more relaxed you are, the easier and more enjoyable the whole experience will be.

Lubricant Is Non-Negotiable

If there is one golden rule of using a dildo, it is this: use lubricant. Even a smooth silicone toy can drag without it, and friction is the fastest way to turn pleasure into discomfort. A water-based lubricant is the perfect companion for silicone toys because it is safe on the material, easy to clean and wonderfully silky. Apply it generously to the toy and to yourself, and do not be shy about topping up during the session.

For anal play, always switch to a dedicated anal lubricant, which is thicker and designed to last longer. For more on choosing the right bottle, our guide to water-based, silicone and oil-based lubricants explains the differences in detail.

Start Slow and Listen to Your Body

When you are ready, hold the dildo at the base and rest the tip against your opening, letting your body get used to the touch before applying any pressure. Gently rock or press rather than thrusting straight in. Let the toy find its own way, using your hand to guide it at a pace that feels good. There is no time limit and no target: some sessions are slow and exploratory, and that is exactly right.

Pay attention to how it feels. A slight fullness is normal and often pleasant, but sharp pain is a signal to stop and readjust, add more lubricant or switch position. You can also try placing the toy and moving your hips against it instead of moving the toy itself, which gives you total control over depth and rhythm. The Loving Joy 7 Inch Dildo with Balls is a great beginner toy for this, with a smooth shape and a comfortable base that is easy to grip.

Try Different Positions

Position changes everything. Lying on your back with your knees bent is the classic starting point and gives you full control and visibility. On all fours changes the angle and depth. If you have a toy with a suction cup, like the Loving Joy 6 Inch Suction Cup Dildo, you can mount it to a smooth surface and ride it completely hands-free, which many people find brings the most intense sensations.

Combining your dildo with clitoral stimulation is how many people reach their most powerful orgasms. You can use your fingers, or add a separate clitoral vibrator while the dildo is in place. There is no rule that says you have to use a dildo on its own, and blending internal and external stimulation is a wonderful way to explore what your body loves.

It can also help to think of your first sessions as experiments rather than performances. Some days you will want slow, gentle insertion with lots of pauses; other days you may feel ready to try a little more movement. Neither approach is better, and both teach you something about how your body responds. Keep a mental note of the positions, angles and speeds that feel especially good, and repeat them next time. Over a handful of sessions you will build a small personal map of what works, which makes each subsequent use more enjoyable and far less uncertain.

Do not be surprised if your preferences change as you gain confidence. The toy that feels perfect in week one might become the toy you want to build on in week four, and that is a sign of healthy exploration, not a problem with the toy. Many people find themselves adding a second, slightly larger or differently shaped dildo to their collection precisely because their first toy taught them what to look for. Whatever happens, the only measure of success is how good it feels to you.

Aftercare and Cleaning

After your session, take a moment to enjoy the feeling and then clean everything up. Wash your dildo with warm water and sex toy cleaner or mild soap, dry it thoroughly and store it in a pouch or its box, away from direct sunlight and other silicone toys. Cleaning straight after use keeps your toy hygienic and ready for next time. For a full rundown, our guide to cleaning, sanitising and storing adult toys is a great reference.

Frequently Asked Questions

Does it hurt the first time I use a dildo?

It should not. Discomfort usually means you need more lubricant, less speed or a smaller size. Relax, go slowly and stop if you feel any sharp pain.

How much lubricant should I use?

More than you think you need, at least at first. Apply it to the toy and yourself, and keep topping up during the session. Lubricant is the secret to comfortable dildo play.

Can I use a dildo in the shower?

Yes, if it is made from fully waterproof silicone and you use a stable surface. Shower play works especially well with a suction cup toy, but be careful with your footing and grip.

Enjoy the Journey

Learning how to use a dildo is a journey of self-discovery, and there is no rush to reach any destination. Go slowly, use plenty of lubricant, try different positions and pay attention to what your body responds to. Browse our silicone dildos and suction cup dildos to find toys that suit your pace, and stock up on water-based lubricant for the smoothest possible start.

Strap-Ons and Pegging: A Beginner’s Guide

Strap-ons are one of the most versatile and rewarding toys in the bedroom, and pegging, the term for strap-on play where one partner wears the toy, has become wonderfully mainstream. Whether you are curious about giving, receiving or simply exploring together, a strap-on opens up a world of shared pleasure, intimacy and trust. If you are new to this, fear not: this beginner’s guide covers everything you need to know to get started with confidence.

What Is a Strap-On?

A strap-on is simply a dildo fitted to a harness that one partner wears around the hips or thighs. The harness holds the dildo firmly in place, leaving both hands free. This allows the wearer to provide penetration without needing to be anatomically equipped, which makes strap-ons perfect for every gender combination and for anyone who wants to explore giving and receiving.

The magic of a strap-on is that both partners get something out of it. The receiver enjoys the dildo, while the wearer gets the powerful sensation of thrusting and controlling the rhythm. Many wearers find the experience surprisingly sensual and confidence-boosting. Communication is everything: agree on a signal to slow down or stop, keep the pace gentle, and check in with each other throughout.

Strap-ons are also wonderfully adaptable beyond classic pegging. A harness works with dildos of many shapes and sizes, which means you can swap in a smaller toy for one session and a larger one for another without buying a whole new kit. Some couples use them for double penetration, pairing a strap-on with a handheld toy or a second partner. Others simply enjoy the confidence of the wearer being able to match the receiver’s rhythm precisely, hands free. Because the harness holds the toy steady, the wearer can focus entirely on movement and sensation, which often makes sessions longer, smoother and more satisfying for everyone involved.

Choosing Your First Harness and Dildo

For your first kit, we recommend an adjustable harness with a secure O-ring that fits a range of dildo sizes. Adjustable straps make it easy to find a comfortable fit for any body, and a stretchy, washable fabric keeps things hygienic. Beginner kits like those in our strap-on sets range pair a comfortable harness with a body-safe dildo so you can start playing straight away.

For the dildo itself, start with something moderate in size. A toy around 5 to 6 inches with a manageable girth, like the Adrien Lastic Cushioned Core Suction Cup Silicone Dildo, is ideal for first-time pegging because its soft outer core feels gentle for the receiver while the firm base attaches securely in the harness. If you are shopping for a complete solution, a pegging-specific kit that includes a harness, a compatible dildo and clear instructions takes all the guesswork out of your first session.

How to Get Started with Pegging

Preparation is the key to a positive first experience. The receiving partner should feel relaxed and comfortable, and a proper warm-up with fingers or a small toy is highly recommended. Generous amounts of lubricant are essential: the anus does not self-lubricate, so you cannot use too much. An anal lubricant designed for the job will make everything glide comfortably.

Start slowly, with gentle pressure rather than force. Let the receiver set the pace and depth, and use plenty of lubricant throughout the session. If anything feels painful, stop and adjust rather than pushing through. The goal is connection and pleasure, not endurance. For beginners, taking it slow and keeping the sessions short builds confidence for both partners, and communication throughout turns pegging into a deeply bonding experience.

One of the best ways to make a first session feel safe and playful is to rehearse the basics before you introduce penetration. The wearer can practice putting on the harness, adjusting the straps and controlling the dildo with their hand until it feels natural. Meanwhile, both partners can agree on a simple word or gesture that means “slow down” or “stop”, which removes any guesswork in the heat of the moment. Some couples also like to start with the wearer holding the dildo by hand over the harness, so the receiver gets used to the size before the toy is attached. These small steps turn an intimidating idea into an easy, enjoyable routine.

Safety and Comfort Tips

• Lubricate generously: the anus needs help, so use a quality anal or water-based lubricant.
• Use a flared base: anything used anally must have a flared base to prevent it slipping in too far.
• Warm up first: start with fingers or a small butt plug before moving to the strap-on.
• Wear the harness correctly: it should feel snug and secure without digging in.
• Clean everything after: wash the dildo and harness thoroughly with warm water and toy cleaner.

If the receiver enjoys anal play, adding a small butt plug to your routine before pegging can make the transition far more comfortable. And remember that a strap-on dildo used anally must always have a flared base, which every toy in our suction cup dildo range and strap-on kit provides. Our guide to choosing your first dildo or massager is also helpful when picking the right shape and size.

Frequently Asked Questions

Does pegging hurt the receiver?

It should not when done properly. Plenty of lubricant, a gentle warm-up and slow, communicative pacing make pegging comfortable and pleasurable. If it hurts, slow down, add lubricant or take a break.

Can a strap-on be used vaginally as well?

Yes. Strap-on dildos work for vaginal penetration too, and many couples switch between the two. Just clean the toy thoroughly between different uses.

Do I need a special dildo for pegging?

Any body-safe dildo with a flared base can be used in a harness. Some kits include a compatible dildo, but you can also swap in your own favourite cushioned core silicone dildo that fits the harness ring.

Explore Strap-On Play Together

Strap-ons and pegging are about connection, trust and shared pleasure, and with the right kit they are wonderfully easy to explore. Choose a comfortable harness, a body-safe silicone dildo with a flared base and a generous supply of lubricant, and talk through everything together. Browse our strap-on sets and butt plugs to build your perfect kit, with discreet UK delivery on every order.

Silicone Dildos vs TPE: A Material Guide

When you start shopping for a dildo, you will quickly notice the words silicone and TPE appearing on product pages. They can look similar in photos, but these two materials behave very differently in the bedroom and in your care routine. Understanding the difference between a silicone dildo and a TPE toy is one of the most important things you can do for your safety, your comfort and the lifespan of your toy.

What Is Body-Safe Silicone?

Silicone is the material that experts and toy makers alike regard as the gold standard. It is a synthetic polymer that is non-porous, meaning it has no microscopic pores where bacteria can hide. That makes it naturally hygienic and incredibly easy to clean: a rinse with warm water and a dedicated sex toy cleaner is all it takes to keep it fresh.

Silicone is also completely free of phthalates and other softeners, so it is gentle even on sensitive skin. It can be made in every firmness from softly squishy to firmly structured, and dual-density silicone combines a soft outer layer with a firmer core for a very lifelike feel. The Adrien Lastic Cushioned Core Suction Cup Silicone Dildo is a perfect example of what good silicone feels like: soft to the touch but with plenty of structure for satisfying play.

What Is TPE?

TPE, or thermoplastic elastomer, is a softer, stretchier material that is very common in budget-friendly toys. It has a plush, skin-like feel that many people genuinely love, and it is significantly cheaper to produce, which is why you will find so many affordable TPE dildos and masturbators on the market.

The trade-off is porosity. TPE has a porous structure, which means microscopic gaps in the material can trap moisture, bacteria and bodily fluids. That does not make TPE toys instantly unsafe, but it does mean they require more careful cleaning and should ideally be used with a condom, especially if the toy is shared between partners. TPE is also degraded by silicone-based lubricants, so you must stick to water-based formulas.

Firmness is another difference worth knowing about. TPE toys tend to feel soft and plush straight out of the box, which is lovely, but they also lose that bounce more quickly with regular use and can develop a tacky surface as they age. Silicone, by contrast, keeps its finish for years, and modern dual-density silicone can replicate that soft outer feel while remaining far more durable underneath. When you compare the two side by side after several months of use, the silicone toy will almost always look and feel like new, while the TPE toy is usually showing its age. For many people, that long-term consistency is worth the higher price tag.

Silicone vs TPE: The Head-to-Head

• Safety: silicone is non-porous and free of softeners; TPE is porous and may contain softening agents. Silicone wins.
• Feel: TPE is often softer and more skin-like out of the box; silicone feels firmer but can be just as soft in dual-density designs.
• Cleaning: silicone can be washed and even boiled for deep cleaning; TPE can only be washed with mild soap and water.
• Lubricants: silicone works with all lubricants; TPE is damaged by silicone lubricant, so water-based only.
• Lifespan: a quality silicone toy lasts for years; TPE degrades faster and absorbs odours over time.
• Price: TPE is usually cheaper; silicone is an investment that pays off in durability.

Neither material is “bad”, but they suit different priorities. If you want the most hygienic, longest-lasting and most versatile toy, silicone is the clear winner. If you want the softest feel on a strict budget and are happy to care for the toy carefully, TPE can be a fine starting point.

What to Look for in a Silicone Dildo

If you decide on silicone, you have a wonderful range to choose from. Look for 100% body-safe silicone and check that the toy is phthalate-free. Dual-density designs give the most realistic feel, combining a soft outer layer with a firm inner core, while a smooth single-layer silicone is easier to clean and often more comfortable for beginners.

The Loving Joy 6 Inch Silicone Dildo with Suction Cup is a brilliant everyday silicone toy: body-safe, easy to clean and fully compatible with your favourite water-based lubricant. For a smoother, slimmer option, the Loving Joy Smooth Silicone Dildo 6 Inch offers pure comfort without any texture. And if you enjoy lifelike shapes, our realistic dildos are all made from body-safe silicone too.

Whatever silicone toy you choose, storing it away from other toys is a good habit, because silicone toys left touching each other can react and stick over time. A breathable storage pouch or their original boxes keeps everything in great shape. For more detail on the differences between materials, take a look at our guide to realistic, silicone, glass and metal toys.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is TPE safe for a dildo?

TPE is generally considered body-safe in the sense that it will not harm you on contact, but because it is porous it is less hygienic than silicone and needs careful cleaning. Using a condom with a TPE toy is a sensible extra precaution.

Does silicone lubricant damage silicone toys?

In rare cases, high-quality silicone lubricant can react with lower-grade silicone toys. The safest rule is to use water-based lubricant with all silicone toys, which is what most manufacturers recommend.

Can I boil a TPE toy to clean it?

No. Boiling will damage TPE. Silicone toys can be boiled for deep cleaning, but TPE should only be washed with warm, soapy water and dried thoroughly.

Choose the Material That Suits You

For safety, hygiene, durability and peace of mind, body-safe silicone is the material we recommend for most people. It feels wonderful, cleans easily and lasts for years. Browse our full range of silicone dildos and realistic dildos, all made from body-safe materials, and pick up some water-based lubricant to complete your collection.

Glass Dildos: Safety, Care and Temperature Play

Glass dildos are having a well-deserved moment, and once you understand them, it is easy to see why. Sleek, beautiful and surprisingly versatile, they offer a completely different experience to soft silicone. The hard, smooth surface glides effortlessly, holds temperature beautifully and can even be warmed or cooled for temperature play. This guide answers the big questions, starting with the one everyone asks: are glass dildos actually safe?

Are Glass Dildos Safe?

Yes, provided you choose the right kind. A body-safe glass toy is made from borosilicate glass, the same strong, heat-resistant glass used in laboratory equipment. It is completely non-porous, which means it cannot harbour bacteria, and it is free of the chemicals found in some cheaper plastics. High-quality glass toys are tempered and very durable, far stronger than ordinary household glass.

What you are looking for is a solid, seamless piece with no cracks, chips or rough seams. Cheaper glass ornaments marketed as toys may not be made to the same standard, so it is always worth buying from a reputable store. Every glass dildo in our glass and metal dildo collection is manufactured specifically for intimate use. Before every use, give your toy a quick visual check for any damage, just as you would with any glass item.

Why Choose a Glass Dildo?

Glass has a wonderfully distinct feel. It is completely rigid, so there is no flex at all: every curve and texture is delivered with perfect precision. The surface is glassy-smooth, which makes insertion easy and feels unlike any other material. Because it is non-porous, glass also works with any lubricant, including silicone-based options that would damage silicone toys.

Glass is also stunningly beautiful. Many toys, like the Spectrum Nubby Textured Glass Dildo, feature sculpted curves and textures that are as lovely to look at as they are to use. And unlike softer materials, glass never degrades, never absorbs odours and never holds onto stains. With proper care, a quality glass toy will last a very long time indeed.

There is more variety in glass toys than you might expect. Some are perfectly smooth and gently curved, ideal for simple, uninterrupted gliding. Others are covered in nubs, ridges or swirls that deliver texture with complete rigidity, creating intense stimulation because the hard surface does not yield at all. A nubby design like the Spectrum Nubby is lovely for focused pressure, while a ribbed option such as the Spectrum Ribbed Glass Dildo offers rhythmic sensation as it moves. Choosing between them really comes down to whether you prefer smooth, even contact or textured, deliberate stimulation, and many fans end up owning both.

Because glass is so smooth and firm, it also works beautifully with warm-up play and slow, deliberate movement. The weight and rigidity give you precise control, so you can press exactly where it feels good or let the toy rest in place while your muscles do the work. Beginners sometimes worry that a hard material will be uncomfortable, but the key is the same as with any toy: plenty of lubricant, a gentle pace and full relaxation. Water-based lubricant is ideal with glass, and it keeps the gliding effortless.

Temperature Play: Hot and Cold Sensations

This is where glass truly shines. Because glass conducts heat, you can change the temperature of the toy to create completely different sensations. To warm it, soak the dildo in a bowl of warm (never boiling) water for a few minutes, or hold it under a warm tap. To cool it, pop it in the fridge for a short while or run it under cold water. A warm toy feels soothing and relaxing, while a cool toy delivers a sharp, invigorating tingle.

Temperature play should always be gentle. Warm water should feel comfortable on your wrist, not hot, and never use boiling water or a microwave, as rapid heating can stress the glass. Keep the chilled toy out of the freezer: freezing can make it uncomfortably cold and may even damage the glass. Start with mild temperatures and build up as you discover what you enjoy. Always test the temperature on your inner wrist first.

How to Care for a Glass Dildo

Cleaning a glass dildo could not be easier. Wash it with warm soapy water or a dedicated sex toy cleaner before and after each use, then rinse thoroughly and dry with a soft cloth. Because glass is non-porous, it is also one of the few toys that can be safely cleaned with boiling water, a dishwasher cycle or even a proper toy sterilising solution for a deep clean.

Store your glass toy somewhere it cannot be knocked or dropped on a hard surface. A padded pouch or its original box is ideal. Glass is strong, but it is still glass, so it deserves careful handling. For more detailed advice, our guide to how to clean, sanitise and store adult toys covers everything you need to know.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can glass dildos break inside me?

Body-safe borosilicate glass is tempered and extremely strong, and it will not shatter under normal use. It can only break if dropped hard on a hard surface, which is why you check for damage before use and handle it carefully.

What lubricant can I use with a glass dildo?

Any of them. Because glass is non-porous and non-reactive, it is compatible with water-based, silicone-based and oil-based lubricants. A little water-based lubricant is all you need for comfortable gliding.

How do I warm a glass dildo?

Soak it in a bowl of comfortably warm water for a few minutes, or run it under a warm tap. Never use boiling water or a microwave, and test the temperature on your wrist before use.

Experience the Beauty of Glass

Glass dildos combine safety, beauty and versatility in a way few other toys can match. Choose a quality borosilicate toy, care for it properly, and enjoy the fascinating world of temperature play whenever the mood takes you. Explore our glass and metal dildo range to find a sculpted toy as beautiful as it is functional, and pair it with your favourite water-based lubricant for effortless, glassy-smooth play.

Realistic Dildos: What to Look For

There is something deeply appealing about a realistic dildo. A lifelike shape, a soft skin-like feel and a gently textured shaft can bring a whole new level of immersion to solo or couple play. But not all realistic toys are created equal. Materials, firmness, texture and even the shape of the tip change how a toy performs, so it pays to know what to look for before you buy. This guide walks you through everything that matters.

Material and Firmness

The material is the single most important factor in a realistic dildo. Body-safe silicone is the gold standard: it is soft, non-porous, easy to clean and gentle on the skin. Many realistic silicone toys are designed to mimic the natural give of skin, with just enough firmness to hold their shape. Dual-density silicone takes this a step further, pairing a soft, squishy outer layer with a firmer inner core, so the toy feels realistic in the hand but still has structure for penetration.

Beware of cheap toys made from jelly, TPE or PVC. These porous materials can harbour bacteria, sometimes contain phthalates, and many give off a strong chemical smell. A genuinely realistic feel should come from good silicone design, not from questionable chemistry. For a deep dive into how materials compare, our guide to realistic, silicone, glass and metal toys is a great read.

Shape, Texture and Details

Realistic dildos aim to copy the natural anatomy, and the details matter. Look for a pronounced head, a raised coronal ridge and a defined neck. That ridge is not just for looks: it provides extra stimulation as the toy moves in and out. A gently veined or textured shaft adds subtle sensation, while a completely smooth shaft is easier and more comfortable, especially for beginners.

Some realistic toys include a pair of balls or a scrotum at the base. This is not just cosmetic. The wider base helps with control during use and stops the toy from slipping through your grip. The Loving Joy 8 Inch Dildo with Balls is a lovely example, with a lifelike shape and a generous, easy-to-hold base, while the Loving Joy 7 Inch Dildo with Balls offers the same design in a slightly shorter length.

How Realistic Is Realistic?

Realism exists on a spectrum. Some toys are hyper-realistic, down to skin tones and fine veins, while others take a softer approach with a stylised shape and a rounded tip. Think about what appeals to you. If you want the closest thing to a real partner, choose a detailed toy with realistic proportions and a skin-like feel. If you prefer something that feels natural but slightly idealised, a smoother silicone design will suit you better.

Firmness is worth considering too. A softer, more flexible toy is gentler and easier to insert, which makes it ideal for beginners or anyone who enjoys slow, deep play. A firmer toy holds its shape better and provides more deliberate stimulation. The realistic dildos in our range include both, so you can match the feel to your mood.

Texture also affects the experience in a way that is worth thinking about before you buy. Some realistic dildos are heavily veined and textured along the entire shaft, delivering extra stimulation with every stroke, which is wonderful when you are already aroused but can feel intense during longer sessions. Others are smooth apart from the head ridge, offering a cleaner glide that many people find easier to take deep. If you are buying your first realistic toy, a mostly smooth shaft with a defined head is the most versatile choice because it works well for both gentle and vigorous play. You can always graduate to a more heavily textured model later once you know what you enjoy.

Care is simple but important. Realistic silicone toys should be washed with warm water and a dedicated sex toy cleaner before and after each use, then dried and stored away from direct sunlight and from other silicone toys, since silicone left touching silicone can react over time. A breathable pouch or the original box keeps the surface clean and prolongs the life of the toy. With that small amount of attention, a quality realistic dildo stays soft, smooth and ready for years of play.

Size, Suction and Suitability

As with any dildo, size is personal. A realistic toy in the 6 to 8 inch range, like the Loving Joy 6 Inch Dildo with Balls or the Loving Joy 8 Inch Dildo with Balls, covers most people’s sweet spot. Girth matters more than length, so check the diameter before you choose. If a realistic shape feels intimidating at first, a slimline silicone toy is a gentler entry point.

Many realistic dildos are available with a suction cup base, which adds hands-free versatility. And because these toys are typically used with penetration, a quality water-based lubricant is essential for comfort. Silicone lubricants can degrade silicone toys, so stick to water-based formulas with your silicone dildo collection. Clean the toy before and after use with warm water and a dedicated sex toy cleaner to keep it in perfect condition.

Frequently Asked Questions

Are realistic dildos safe?

Body-safe realistic dildos made from phthalate-free silicone are completely safe when cleaned properly. Avoid jelly or PVC toys, which are porous and may contain questionable chemicals. Always check the material before buying.

Why choose a realistic dildo over a regular one?

Realistic dildos offer a lifelike shape and texture that many people find more immersive and satisfying. The head ridge and natural proportions provide a different kind of stimulation than a simple smooth toy.

Can I use a realistic dildo hands-free?

Yes, if you choose a model with a suction cup base. Attach it to a smooth surface and you can enjoy completely hands-free play. The base also helps with control when using it by hand.

Find Your Perfect Realistic Dildo

A realistic dildo can bring a wonderfully lifelike quality to your play, as long as you choose body-safe materials and a shape that suits your body. Start with silicone, think about firmness and texture, and always keep good water-based lubricant to hand. Explore our full range of realistic dildos and silicone dildos to find the toy that feels right for you, with discreet UK delivery on every order.

Suction Cup Dildos: Hands-Free Play Explained

Imagine a toy that holds itself perfectly in place while you control the movement, your hands completely free. That is the magic of a suction cup dildo. The suction cup base sticks firmly to any smooth surface, turning a floor, wall, shower tile or even a chair into a personal playground. Whether you are new to dildos or a seasoned fan looking for something more adventurous, hands-free play is a total game changer, and this guide explains exactly how it works.

How Does a Suction Cup Dildo Work?

A suction cup dildo is exactly what it sounds like: a dildo with a cup-shaped base that creates a vacuum seal when pressed against a smooth, non-porous surface. To attach it, press the base firmly onto the surface, push out the air and you should feel it grip. The stronger the seal, the more securely the toy stays in place while you move against it.

This opens up a huge range of positions. You can mount the toy on a wall for standing play, on the floor or a sturdy stool for squatting, or even on a flat board or headboard in the bedroom. Because your hands are free, you can focus entirely on the sensation, adjust your angle and rhythm, and combine the toy with clitoral stimulation using your fingers or a small vibrator. It is brilliant for solo play and equally fun to hand the control over to a partner.

What Surfaces Work Best?

Suction cups need a completely smooth, non-porous surface to form a good seal. Shower tiles, mirrors, glass windows, smooth doors and acrylic boards all work brilliantly. A clear plastic or acrylic board is a popular choice because you can mount it on the floor, on a bed frame or against a wall and move it anywhere in the house. Flat laminate flooring can work too, but avoid textured or rough surfaces, as they break the vacuum seal.

Always check the seal before you begin. Give the toy a gentle tug after attaching it to make sure it is securely fixed. This is especially important on tiled surfaces, since a strong seal on a loose tile could pull it away. Using a little water-based lubricant on the shaft makes gliding smoother, but keep the base dry so it does not lose its grip.

Why People Love Hands-Free Dildo Play

• Total control: you set the angle, speed and pressure with your body, not your hands.
• Hands-free stimulation: leaves your fingers free for clitoral or other play.
• Position variety: wall, floor, stool, chair and bed are all fair game.
• Great for couples: easy for a partner to direct or enjoy alongside you.

Hands-free play also makes it easier to find your favourite angle. With a standard dildo you have to hold the toy and judge the depth by feel. With a suction cup toy, you can rock, grind and roll against it while experimenting with different postures, which often leads to entirely new sensations and more intense orgasms.

Because you are no longer holding the toy, you can also bring a partner into the experience in a new way. Many couples enjoy watching and guiding each other while a suction cup dildo does the work, and it is a wonderful tool for exploring dominance, submission or simply shared curiosity. The wearer gets to set the scene and the angle, while the other person can take over at any moment by pressing or rocking the toy themselves. It turns a simple dildo into a genuinely collaborative toy, and it requires almost no skill to get started.

There is a practical side too. Hands-free play tends to use your muscles in different ways, which means you may find positions you never discovered with a handheld toy. Squatting, kneeling, rocking on the heels and leaning forward against a wall all change the angle of entry and the pressure on internal pleasure points. That variety keeps play feeling fresh, and it is exactly why so many people who try one suction cup dildo end up collecting a second. Start with a moderate length, use plenty of lubricant and give yourself room to experiment with posture until you find what your body loves.

How to Choose a Suction Cup Dildo

Look for a wide, flexible base because a bigger suction cup forms a stronger and more reliable seal. The material matters too: soft, body-safe silicone grips the skin gently and is easy to clean. The Loving Joy 7.5 Inch Suction Cup Dildo is a brilliant all-rounder with a secure base and a satisfying length, while the Loving Joy 6 Inch Silicone Dildo with Suction Cup offers a more compact, beginner-friendly option.

For something with extra give, the Adrien Lastic Cushioned Core Suction Cup Silicone Dildo pairs a soft outer layer with a supportive core, which feels wonderful against the body while still holding its shape. If you want texture as well, the full suction cup dildo range includes ribbed and dual-density options. After every use, clean the base carefully, as soap can make silicone slippery and slightly reduce suction if not fully rinsed off. A dedicated sex toy cleaner keeps the whole toy fresh and grippy.

Frequently Asked Questions

Will a suction cup dildo stick to a bed?

No, soft or fabric surfaces will not hold a vacuum seal. You need a smooth, non-porous surface such as tile, glass, an acrylic board or smooth laminate. An acrylic mounting board is the easiest portable solution.

Why does my suction cup dildo keep falling off?

Usually the surface is too textured, the base is wet, or air has leaked under the cup. Dry the surface, press the base down firmly to expel all the air, and test the seal before use.

Is a suction cup dildo safe for beginners?

Yes. A compact suction cup toy like the Loving Joy 6 Inch Silicone Dildo with Suction Cup is a great first dildo because you control all the movement. Just take it slowly and use plenty of lubricant.

Try Hands-Free Play Today

A suction cup dildo turns any smooth surface into an adventure, and the hands-free freedom is something every toy lover should try at least once. Pick a body-safe silicone model with a wide, secure base, attach it somewhere smooth and let your body take over. Browse our suction cup dildos and silicone dildos collections, and add some water-based lubricant to your basket for the smoothest possible experience.